Help Your Little One Build Independence
Learning to wash hands and faces is a skill that develops around 18-24 months. Your toddler may start by wiping their hands or face with a wet wipe. As they grow, they can gradually learn each step of handwashing, working toward completing the whole routine independently around age 4.
You can help your little one learn by starting small and giving them lots of practice. If your child finds having their face or hands wiped uncomfortable, try giving them a predictable cue before you begin. For example, you could say, “Mommy is going to wipe your face. 1…2…3!” Finishing by 3 can be a helpful, if this type of touch is challenging for your little one. This cue gives your child a chance to know what’s coming next and can make the overall experience feel more comfortable.
Give Your Toddler Some Control
Toddlers love having choices! Giving them a little control can make grooming routines easier. When washing hands, try offering simple choices such as:
- “Do you want to turn on the water or should I?”
- “Do you want the blue towel or the green towel?”
- “Do you want to sing while we wash your hands?”
Even small choices can help your child feel more involved and motivated to participate.
Looking for More Ideas?
Here are two helpful resources with tips for making handwashing easier and encouraging independence:
- The Kavanaugh Report: A Montessori approach to promoting independence with hand washing in toddlers providing 3 ways to make it a practical reality.
- Lovevery Parent Resource: Tips for setting up your toddler for success, teaching the steps of handwashing, and helping them understand why we wash our hands.
Questions?
Contact your Developmental Specialist. We’re happy to help.
